My daughter, Alison Pearce often writes beautiful poetry for my couples. Following is one she has written.
Our Love Will Grow Stronger
By A. M Pearce
We have come so far along this road
That we have travelled together
There have been some turns that have been hard
We’ve encountered storms that we had to weather
But along that road we’ve found great joy
In great beauty we have gloried
There have been ups and there have been downs
And we have shared some stories
Whichever way the road has turned
We’ve stayed by each other’s side
Bravely through the thick and thin
On life exhilarating ride
Now the road ahead stretches before us
Twisting and turning, longer and longer
Whatever we may find on its path
Our love can only grow stronger
The Art of Marriage – Author Unknown
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things become the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I Love You” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other room to grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right person.
It is…being the right partner.
There are many wonderful readings around for baby namings. I would like to share one of the readings that I really like for a baby naming which reflects our time. The author is Patrick Atkinson.
A Message for My Child
Author: Patrick Atkinson
I gave you life, but I cannot live it for you.
I can teach you things, but I cannot make you learn.
I can give you directions, but I cannot be there to lead you.
I can allow you freedom, but I cannot make you believe.
I can teach you right from wrong, but I cannot always decide for you.
I can buy you beautiful clothes, but i cannot make you beautiful inside.
I can offer you advice, but cannot accept it for you.
I can give you love, but I cannot force it upon you.
I can teach you to share, but I cannot make you unselfish.
I can teach you to respect, but I cannot force you to show honour.
I can advise you about friends, but cannot choose them for you.
I can tell you about drink, but cannot say NO for you.
I can warn you about drugs, but I cannot prevent you using them.
I can tell you about lofty goals, but I cannot achieve them for you.
I can teach you kindness, but I cannot force you to be gracious.
I can warn you about sins, but I cannot make your morals.
I can tell you how to live, but I cannot give you Eternal Life.
Which sort of bride are you? Do you like a traditional wedding with the white dress, attendants, church, traditional words spoken at the ceremony and formal speeches at the reception.
Or do you want a informal casual wedding at the venue of your choice with just a couple of close friends and family, own words for the ceremony and then a reception with no speeches?
How fortunate is the society that we live in that allows a bride and her groom to choose the type of wedding that they would like.
In my experience with couples I find they like a mixture of the traditional and the non-traditional which I think is wonderful. There are so many venues that provide the most perfect places to hold a ceremony and a reception that it is becoming difficult to choose.
What are the traditional things that you enjoy and would love to include in a ceremony?
I love the formality of the dresses, attendants, but also love that couples choose the wording of their vows which is such a declaration of love.
I love the symbolic ceremonies, the holding and blessing of the wedding rings, the exchange of roses, sand pouring or goldfish ceremony. Each ceremony can be different in subtle ways which is unique to each couple.
Let me know your thoughts….
This was sent to me years ago.
Why should the wedding ring be worn on the fourth finger?
There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese…..
Thumb represents your Parents
Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings
Middle finger represents your-Self
Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner
& the Last (Little) finger represents your children
Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together – back to back
Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb – tip to tip
Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)…, they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.
Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings)…., they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.
Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)…., they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.
Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers representing your spouse).
You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT….., because Husband &
Wife have to remain together all their lives – through thick and thin!!
Please try this out………….
ISN'T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?
How excited you must feel to be marrying the person of your dreams and to be planning your very special day.
Excitement will be high, but also a little trepidation to make sure you get it all right on the day. Seems so much to think about and even though the wedding is well in advance you know that you need to get started.
The first thing you need to do is have a plan. List all of the things that you can think of to do and then when listed, put them in order of importance. Then breathe a sigh of relief. Remember to breathe, that is the most important thing, otherwise you will faint and someone will have to pick you up.
Book the place for the wedding and reception and then your Celebrant. Don't leave your Celebrant to the last minute as your chosen Celebrant and the ceremony that is created will set the mood for the rest of your day. Choose a Celebrant that you are comfortable with and see the list that I already have on my website jennymitchell.com.au to help you.
Have fun, relax and fulfill your dreams